Ben Wa Balls are small, weighted balls that are inserted into the vagina. They can be used to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. According to Karthik Kumar, MBBS of MedicineNet, the theory is that the stronger the muscles, the more intense the orgasms. Ben Wa balls are available in a range of sizes and materials. Some are made of metal and are naturally weighted, whereas others are made of plastic or silicone and contain metal ball bearings.
Ben Wa balls are nothing new – women have been using them for centuries – even gynecologists and obstetricians may occasionally recommend Ben Wa balls to improve vaginal elasticity and bladder control. Ben Wa balls are also called vaginal beads, duotone beads, and Kegel balls.
Traditionally used for pelvic floor exercising, Ben Wa Balls are also a more subtle kind of sex toy; if you think of a vibrator as fast and furious, Ben Wa Balls are more of a slow burn, so let’s look at the best ways to use these little spheres of fun.
Let’s take a moment to clean our balls…
As boring as it is to mention, hygiene is all-important, so make sure you wash your hands and your balls (Ben Wa, obviously) thoroughly before you start. Once you have dried your balls, make sure you have an ample supply of lubricant. It is worth mentioning that if you are using silicone balls, use a water-based lubricant.
Apply lube to the vaginal opening and put yourself in a relaxed and comfortable position. You can also apply the lube directly to the Ben Wa Balls or for dryer situations, it can be applied to both.
The best way to exercise those Kegel muscles is to lie on your back and insert the balls gently, one at a time, and push them in as far as they will comfortably go. Then squeeze your pelvic floor muscles to lift the balls internally, hold for 5 seconds, and then slowly release. Repeat this 5 times. You can do this exercise up to 3 times a day for maximum benefit. If you are new, start with a few minutes and gradually increase the duration each day.
As Sexual Stimulation
Although using the balls as exercise aids will undoubtedly be arousing to some degree, you can really turn up the heat by using them deliberately as sexual stimulators.
If you are flying solo, leaving the balls in during the course of the day (no more than 4-6 hours to avoid strain) will keep you in a heightened state of arousal for hours. Ben Wa Balls are weighted, and every movement you make will be matched by a movement deep inside – it can certainly make vacuuming a lot more fun! But imagine rubbing your clitoris with these weighted wonders inside and that sensation would be even further heightened by using a vibrator.
With a Partner
Now, if you thought Ben Wa Balls were purely for solo exploration, you would be sadly missing out, because a whole new world of fun opens when you introduce a partner into the mix.
Wear them out to dinner and tell your partner about it – they will have a hard time keeping their minds on eating (well, the food, anyway) and the build-up will be phenomenal for both of you.
Once you are used to them, it is possible to keep the balls in place during vaginal penetration – just keep things shallow and steady to avoid discomfort.
For even more variety, you can keep them in place while your partner penetrates you anally – the balls will be pushed onto your G-Spot and if you or your partner can rub your clitoris at the same time, the effects will be mind-blowing. However, please note that Ben Wa Balls should never be inserted into the anus.
- Exercising with Ben Wa balls can help you strengthen your pubococcygeus and Kegel muscles. This can help treat incontinence or assist with after labor recovery.
- Strengthening the Kegel muscles may help improve orgasms.
- Some women enjoy the pleasure provided by the movement of the Ben Wa balls as they carry them around during the day.
And once again, don’t forget to wash your balls. Godliness is next to cleanliness and every Goddess wants clean balls….right?
As with all sex toys, once you have finished with them, wash them thoroughly and either towel dry (paper towels are best as they leave no lint) or leave them to air dry, and then store in a dedicated case or bag to avoid dust and other contaminants.