Turning up the Heat on Date Night
Staying in(tercourse) is the new going out, and let’s face it – after a long week at work sometimes it’s just too much of an effort to get dressed up and head to the bars and clubs.
It’s all too easy though to fall into the trap of sticking on your sweats and tuning into the latest TV reality show, and while that might be comfortable, it doesn’t do a lot for your sex life.
So why not have the best of both worlds, and bring date night home?
No, not that kind, although if that’s your thing then go for it! And read on because this first tip might be helpful to…ahem…clean up afterwards.
I polled my ‘sexpert’ friends and asked them what the first thing they did when they were preparing for a date was. The gals unanimously said they take a shower or a soak in the tub, while most of the guys admitted to masturbating. Bless ‘em, they last longer that way. Then they had a shower. Or sometimes both at the same time.
So, how about starting off your indoor date night the same way – together. Fill the tub with loads of scented bubbles, light some candles, and bring a chilled bottle of wine and two glasses into the bathroom with you. Take turns washing each other – believe me, the feel of your partner’s skin under your soapy hands will turn you both on to no end. Have your partner stand up in front of you, and pay careful attention to their nether regions…get up close and personal, close enough for them to feel your breath on them but not so close that your mouth is touching. That ‘so-near-and-yet-so-far’ thing will bring them to their knees, which frankly is a pretty good place for them to be. If you want to go one step further, you can take a leaf out of the guys’ book and indulge in a spot of mutual masturbation in the tub – there is nothing sexier than watching your partner pleasuring him or herself.
Foregoing the fancy restaurant does not mean you have to forego the food. Cooking together is a great bonding experience, and even more so if you do it naked. Make sure the kitchen is warm enough, and create a culinary masterpiece together. As you’re tasting the food allow some to ‘accidentally’ drop on your naked body (making sure it’s not too hot first!) and have your partner lick it off – where you drop the food is entirely up to you, I mean, it’s not your fault it dropped in your lap, right?
Eating can be a very sensual experience, and once again, in the privacy of your own home, it can be done entirely naked. Feed each other, either off the fork or straight from your mouth, and lick any food from around their mouth slowly and teasingly. Dropping your fork under the table and asking your partner to pick it up for you gives them a bird’s eye view of what’s on the dessert menu – girls, part your legs and give him a glimpse, and guys – give yourself a helping hand before she looks and she’ll get an eyeful of what’s in store later.
Whether you live together or apart, this is a date night idea which is guaranteed to ‘come to a head’ so to speak. If you are in the same house then take your laptops into separate rooms, close the door, and start the show. Undress slowly and teasingly, talk dirty, and show your partner what he or she is missing. How far you take it is up to you – you can leave something to the imagination or you can go all out, bring out the sex toys and let yourself go completely. If you even get that far (because voyeurism will make this feel even dirtier than it is) your partner will be banging your door, (and you) to be let in.
Let the Games Begin
A nice, innocent night of board games can turn very racy, very quickly. The rules are simple - every time one of you loses you have to remove an item of clothing. Twister can be VERY erotic when it’s played this way - you may find your butt presses right up against your man’s face, or he might end up with his groin pressed against your mouth. Hmm…what to do? Carry on playing or forfeit the game and plunge right in? Talking of forfeits, you could also make up some cards with naughty things the other person has to do – a taste here, a lick there – all designed to be little teasers and set pulses racing.
The Lust List
This date night can start off innocently enough. Each of you has a notebook and a pen, and you write down your sex bucket list. Everything you have ever wanted to do to your partner, or have them do to you, and when the lists are complete you swap. Talk about each one and see how many you can cross off the list straight away. Reading about what your partner wants will get the juices flowing, and knowing you are ticking (and tickling) the boxes will stimulate your mind as well as your body.
Get Horny with Porn
Maybe you’ve watched it, maybe you haven’t, but watching porn with your partner can be a HUGE turn on for both of you. If you are a bit reticent about watching all-out sex-fests then you can tone it down by choosing an erotic movie instead. Try an oldie but goodie like 9 ½ Weeks with Kim Basinger and Mickey Rourke, or Eyes Wide Shut with Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman. If you like the idea of spanking then try Secretary with James Spader. Chances are you won’t even get halfway through before adding your own X rated scenes to the evening, so you might have to watch them again – oh no, what a damn shame!
Indoor date nights are perfect – get hot and steamy on those long summer nights, or get cozy and turn up the heat when it’s freezing outside. Either way, you’re on to a winner.
Who needs to go out when staying in just got a whole lot more fun!