Commonly categorized as "vanilla sex", the missionary position is actually far from it; like most things in life, you get out of it what you put in…literally. 

1. Dig your heels in

Wearing heels in bed

A girl can get her groove on and meet her partner half-way by bending her knees, and planting her feet firmly on the mattress before using that to move her pelvis up to meet her partner. Not only can you get a deeper penetration angle, all that grinding will add some added friction, as well as stimulate the surrounding "southern region" - which is full of sensitive nerves for both partners. 

2. If you like it - put a ring on it

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If you want to introduce another ‘partner’ to the proceedings, but think that three’s a crowd, invest in a vibrating ring, or cock ring (like the rechargeable Sensuelle ring). With his weight on top of you, the vibrations are amplified tenfold: meaning both you, and he, feel the full benefit. (Vibrators aren't just enjoyable for the gals!!) Not only will it prolong his erection by restricting blood flow, it will also directly stimulate the clitoris. Multitasking at its finest.

3. Give me some skin

Sexytime on the beach - enjoy the feeling of your lover's skin

One of the great advantages to the missionary position is its intimacy. Given that both of you are highly likely to be naked, that’s a lot of skin to skin contact, literally from head to toe. When you think that the skin is the largest organ in the human body and that an average adult carries approximately 22 square feet of it, that’s a lot of erogenous zoning going on. Take full advantage of that fact by touching, stroking, kissing, licking, and biting (gently) every inch of your partner’s skin you can reach.

4. Increase her odds

Female lovers in bed

Ok, so by now any well-informed person knows that most females don’t climax through vaginal penetration alone. However, there is nothing quite like both partners orgasming together. Double up your fun with clitoral masturbation during sex. The positioning makes it easy – all she has to do is slide her hand (or vibe) down between, and play. It’ll work on so many levels; it will almost certainly guarantee her an orgasm, you can (if you time it right) climax together, watching your lover masturbate is hot, and each will be able to watch the other’s face as things start to boil over.

5. The Windows to the Soul

Check your lover out while having sex - it makes things hotter

It comes as standard to close your eyes as the pleasure starts to build, but instead of getting lost in your own world, it adds a whole other dimension to love making if both of you can keep your eyes open, and maintain eye contact throughout. The missionary affords this intimacy because you are face to face and in close proximity. A practice used in Tantric Sex, this eye-gazing can lead to an almost spiritual orgasm for both parties, and could even change the way you have sex forever.

6. Bondage without the binds

Use your lover to hold you down for light bondage

The missionary position can also be used as a very subtle method of bondage, the body of the partner on "top" being the only equipment needed. Body weight is an effective way to keep your lover ‘captive’ (with consent, of course). Having their arms pinned down or raised above their head will add a touch of erotic surrender.


While experimenting with different positions should always be encouraged, as you can see, the missionary position can take on a whole new dimension with a little imagination.

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